How You Get Introduced to the "Hot Friend"

Recently I was at a friend's wedding.

It’s reception time and here’s the basic scenario: Music’s loud, drinks are flowing, people are dancing.

I am one of roughly 15+ single guys at this wedding. One guy got absolutely shitfaced before the reception and is dancing with his shirt off making an ass of himself. A bunch of others have posted up at at the bar, downing drinks, and some others suck at dancing and look like Elaine from Seinfeld on the dance floor.

Meanwhile, I’m doing my thing on the dance floor, having a good time when all of a sudden this attractive girl from the bride’s side (I’m friends with the groom) comes up to me and asks


“Where’s your girlfriend?!”
(In case you can’t tell, this is her screening me to see if I'm single. Also, everything in this conversation is bold and has exclamation points because we’re on a dance floor and the music is loud.)


“I don’t have one!”


“Oh okay! Can you tell me about yourself?!”


“Yeah! You’re basically looking at a human Curious George, and right now my yellow hat is busting out some sweet dance floor yoga moves!”


“Come with me--you have to meet my friend!”


...And she goes and introduces me to her hot friend.


Now how is it that amongst 15+ single guys, she singled out ME to meet her hot friend?

I’d say I’m a good looking dude, but I’m no George Clooney.

I’m a decent dancer, but I’m no Channing Tatum.

Was it the fact that I had on a neon green shirt with a bowtie (and my hair was straight outta control by that point)?

Obviously that makes me stand out, but I actually asked the original girl later in the night at the afterparty, “If I wasn’t wearing the bowtie, would you have introduced me to your friend?”

And she said, “Actually the bowtie had nothing to do with it. You looked like you knew how to enjoy yourself and you came off as interesting.”

Seems so simple. Yet I was the ONLY one in the group who got introduced to the hot friend. 

What’s the “hot friend” in your life? Is there a job you’re trying to land? A person you’re trying to meet? An industry you want to break into? A side hustle you want to launch? 

On Wednesday, August 5, Idea Lemon is teaching a workshop in conjunction with General Assembly in Chicago to help you get your "hot friend".

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In our workshop, we’ll break down legends like The Rock, Jay-Z, Tina Fey, and Amy Poehler, then you’ll learn how to build an authentic and “hot friend”-worthy personal brand so you can become legendary yourself, and get the things you want.

You’ll learn exactly how we’ve aced interviews, connected with industry influencers and leaders, and been viewed as the most interesting people in the room. You’ll walk away with an elevator pitch that gets people to say, “I HAVE to learn more about you!”, “You’d be great for this opportunity”, and “I NEED to introduce you to _____”

If you want to:

  • Reinvent yourself
  • Own your personal brand
  • Become a natural at being comfortable in front of people
  • Create opportunities for yourself instead of hoping something good comes your way
  • Get the job you want
  • Start your own business or side hustle

Then you need to be there on August 5th.
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We taught this to a private group recently, and here’s what one person sent me afterwards:

I met up with him a few days later and he told me used what we taught in the workshop in a job interview that same week and was OFFERED THE JOB!

He got his hot friend. They really want him, and now he’s in a position to decide if HE wants THEM.

You could be the person too drunk to function taking their shirt off (ever been to a job interview and completely fumble when your resume is off the table, or been to a networking event and felt like you had nothing interesting to say).

You could be the one hiding in the corner posting up at the bar (ever felt too shy to talk about what you’re really good at?)

You could be a horrible dancer like Elaine (you keep doing the same thing even though it’s not working), or you could be the one who is comfortable in any situation, and knows how to come off as interesting.


Join us on Wednesday, August 5th at General Assembly

What up! My name is Rajiv Nathan and I'm the Cofounder of Idea Lemon. That banana peel you slipped on to land here came from me. That's because I fancy myself a human Curious George, and the yellow hat I chase is life's authentic moments. I share my chase one story at a time through this blog, our email newsletter, and as a rapper.

Oh and I'm a WWE fan 4 lyf!